New Beginnings for this Blog

I’m engaged and almost married. Marriage is this beautiful, looming adventure that many travel to yet few fight hard and finish well. For Kyl, my fiancé, and me divorce isn’t an option, at all.  We have settled it; we won’t even throw around such a term in a threatening, fix-yourself fight.

Now let me be blunt: I’ve never been the girl who has dreamed about her fluffy, extravagant wedding. Before I met Kyl, I was content with being single. Perhaps it was my jaded, been there been hurt by men attitude. Even as a child and before the trauma and drama of adolescence, I never played the princess bride. I was rumbling and tumbling through canyons and bare feet with my older brother, hunting coyotes and finding fox skulls.

So into my broken and cryptic life waltzes this unassuming and authentic man, Kyl Michael Means. One and half years later I’m sold, done deal, mind made up: I’m choosing this man to love for the rest of my life. Honestly, he choose me first, but I said yes!

I’m beyond excited to be married!

There’s going to be so much laughter and joy. There’s also going to be so many tears and hard choices. I want to record real life on this blog. Hollywood sells our daughters and friends such a lie when it comes to the “ideal relationship.” I want to demystify love and dating. I want to get down into the nitty gritty of why God created man and woman, why it is not good for man to be without a companion, a helper. I want to share stories of success, failure, hilarity and victory.

In no way do I have the answer. But there’s a path and I’m following this little light of mine and venturing hand in hand with my Friend, my Jesus, my Comforter to encourage, provoke, inspire and guide broken women like myself to lift the vision higher and receive every drop of mercy and glory that the Father eagerly awaits to place into your hands.

The unknown is exciting, requiring the rising out of comfort to find it. Here we go!

December 18, 2012 the day Kyl proposed to me in San Diego

Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:16

This is why I’m writing.

Let your light so shine before men – the truth of what the very Word of God says about marriage, being a godly wife and best friend to your husband that he feels so romanced, honored, encouraged and empowered to walk out his calling.

That they may see – when your husband sees how faithfully and joyfully you love him in prayer, deed, word and thought it in turn causes him to lead your family with such integrity and authenticity, a true partnership.

Your good works – how to walk out love: practically, spiritually, emotionally; how you carry the dreams and secrets of his heart before God, your children and friends.

And glorify your Father in heaven – God is the primary, the reason, the source, the rock of your marriage, it’s all unto Him being made known and receiving love and worship from your family, the picture of marriage is only a type and shadow of our impending union with Him in glory.